Marriage is a complex relationship that requires work and commitment from both partners. If you feel that your marriage is in trouble and want to save it, there are several steps you can take to improve the relationship.
- Communication: Communication is the key to any successful relationship. If you and your partner are not communicating effectively, it can be challenging to resolve conflicts and move forward. Try to be open and honest with your partner about your feelings, concerns, and needs. Listen actively to your partner’s perspective and try to understand their point of view. Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to improve your communication skills.
- Address underlying issues: Often, marital problems are a symptom of underlying issues such as stress, depression, or substance abuse. If you or your partner are struggling with these issues, it is essential to address them as soon as possible. Consider seeking professional help to work through these issues and develop coping strategies that can improve your relationship.
- Reconnect emotionally: Sometimes, couples can grow apart emotionally, leading to feelings of resentment or apathy. To save your marriage, it is essential to reconnect emotionally with your partner. Spend time together doing activities you both enjoy, communicate affection through physical touch or verbal affirmations, and make an effort to show appreciation for each other.
- Seek professional help: If you and your partner are struggling to resolve conflicts or make progress, consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor. A professional can help you identify and address the underlying issues that are causing problems in your marriage and can provide guidance and support as you work to rebuild your relationship.
- Prioritize your marriage: Saving a marriage requires effort and commitment from both partners. Make a conscious effort to prioritize your marriage and set aside time for each other. This may mean scheduling regular date nights, setting aside time each day to talk, or taking a vacation together to reconnect.
- Be patient: Saving a marriage takes time and effort. It is essential to be patient and committed to the process, even when it feels difficult or challenging. Remember that progress may be slow and that setbacks are normal. Keep the end goal in mind and work together to achieve it.
It’s important to remember that saving a marriage is a challenging and complex process that requires effort, commitment, and patience from both partners. By prioritizing communication, addressing underlying issues, reconnecting emotionally, seeking professional help, and being patient, you can work to rebuild your relationship and strengthen your marriage. Saving a marriage is a journey, not a destination, and that the process may take time, but the rewards can be significant.
The desire to be wanted and desired by women is a common trait that can be observed in some men. Although it is not true for all men, it is an understandable phenomenon that is rooted in psychology, social norms, and personal preferences.
When people think of domestic and family violence, they often think of how much it hurts the adult victim. It’s true that domestic and family violence is most often violent, abusive or intimidating behaviour. But what you may not realise is that children also experience domestic violence and this affects their physical and emotional health and wellbeing. Growing up in a family where there is a perpetrator of Domestic Violence can cause serious long term mental health issues for the children of that home.
30 years ago it was common place in a heterosexual relationship for the female to do all the housework, cooking and parenting of the children. The male was responsible for earning money and mowing the lawns.
When I was a single dad and sharing responsibility of my daughter 50/50, I experienced first hand everything required to run a functional home. I combined work and nurtured all the needs of my child all at the same time, it’s not easy but the benefits out-way the hard work. It’s constant, often starting as soon as the kids open their eyes (and sometimes before).
Having a partner and sharing the household jobs and parenting is much easier than having to do it all by yourself. Don’t make your partner feel like a single parent. Be an ‘All In’ dad and make life great for all of you. The rewards are fantastic and you will have a much happier relationship and family life will be more relaxing.
Dinner conversations with Dad
Remember all families have been through good and bad times. There were many years before you were born that your Dad had a life probably very different to the life we all have today. Find out, you might be pleasantly suprised.
Experience, Knowledge and History
Through it all there is a wealth of experience, knowledge and history that can be explored with pre-thought crafted questions to get the conversation started. Good questions can be fun and they can also help create bonds and show that there is something larger that themselves.
Below are questions that could be written/printed onto cards and taken to your next family dinner, or even on your next zoom call if you don’t catch up for dinners? Its a good idea to pre-warn your dad so that they can weave their answers to demonstrate that they have travelled a road that has had pebbles and rocks but in the end it worked out through good decision making to show the younger generation listening that you have resilience and come through it well or at least ok.
Table Questions:
Making dinner party memories is easier than you thought, try some more questions here: 40 more dinner table questions
If you’re still lucky enough to have your Grandfather or Grandmother in your life, the answers to their question may be very different to those of your Dads.
Why don’t you write them out onto cards and bring them along to your next dinner and learn a little more about your dad or grandad? Share your experience below, we would love to hear how it went. Did you learn something you never knew? Something insightful or suprising?