Spending more than you earn is the quickest way to get into financial stress, Lets say for example your take home pay is $4,000 a month but you actually spend $4,800. You ask how? Credit card debt, that’s how! Spending more than you earn is common & so easily done that you may not even realize your doing it until your credit card repayments start getting more than you can afford, and then you find yourself in financial trouble.
It can be very stressful at the end of the month when you try to divvy up your pay. You will have to put off what you can, go without, get an extension, part pay, run the petrol tank lean, go without lunch, eat the cupboard bear and often end up borrowing money to get you through to next pay packet.
The people that have been through this and survived know how important it is to “live within your means”. It usually only takes one bad experience of financial stress to never want to experience it again. It’s horrid, your whole world comes to a halt economically and you’re forced to have embarrassing conversations with telephone operators of utility companies, banks and landlords.
Some great financial tips to stop this happening are:
- Know how much you take home a month. Regardless of whether you’re paid weekly, fortnightly or monthly you can need to know what you take home in real dollars $. If your income is variable, look back over the last 6 months and calculate an average monthly take home pay.
- Know what your total monthly expenses are and know your debt. If you need a budget planner, here is one that I used and found it to be comprehensive, Click here for budget planner
- Know what you bottom line is. Subtract all your monthly financial commitments from your monthly take home pay and that is your bottom line. If you have money left over at the end of the month then you are “living within your means”. If you have no Gap then you must evaluate where you can make adjustments and reduce spending in non critical areas. Often you can workout needs versus wants.
- Know what your wants and needs are. It takes discipline and strength of character to put on hold your “wants”. For a while whilst you get under financial control, just go with what you need.
Getting back to a positive gap takes time but it is achievable, you get good at budgeting, good at saying “no” and believe it or not you do feel a sense of accomplishment. Its tough being frugal, no one likes it but if your in a position that you cant afford you will need to go through a little pain to get to pleasure by having your finances under control.


We all know it’s sometimes hard to make ends meet even when we are living as a couple. It can get harder when living as a separated dad as it is more expensive living as a single. Not only are you now paying all your living expenses on your own but you most probably have additional expenses in way of child support and assistance for your children and/ or just the added expense of caring for the children whilst in your care.

Bills are some of the biggest financial strains that people have to deal with week to week. Most people have to deal with more than a few different kinds of utility bills. The biggest problem people have with bills is the fact you cannot really do anything about them. You need your utilities so you need to pay your bills, but there are some methods to lower the amount you are paying week to week. These are the top three you can manage. Every method you take is money in your pocket. Money you need more than they do.
Every parent wants to do a good job raising their kids.
People often associate negotiations with deals between companies or purchases but in reality, the average person makes dozens of negotiations every single day. Whether it’s discussion with an (ex)spouse, pleading with children, or coming to a consensus on dinner plans with friends – negotiating is a part of everyday life. While everyone inevitably engages in some form of negotiation, not everyone is skilled at it. Luckily, it doesn’t require years of business classes to become a great negotiator. And the benefits of becoming a great communicator can be tremendous. Keep the following things in mind for future negotiations.
Stress and emotional pain of a separation can be exacerbated by worrying over expenses for your children. Let yourself focus on the important things in life, and work on discovering strategies that will help you to find workable solutions to your financial stress. Here are some tips on how to deal with your kids expenses when you’re separated.
Circumstances can change. We can’t assume the present needs of our children will be their future needs, you may not own the same assets in one year that you own in another, you might remarry, separate, divorce or anything.
I needed to be completely honest with myself, I couldn’t hide debt and expect to have a budget that would work. So I added everything up and didn’t forget to add in the food, beer, petrol, iTunes downloads, books, movies and gifts for the kids. They are all legitimate and definite expenses for us dads.
















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